Amazing! Probably the best single season of a TV show I have seen.
M36 W31 S4 S2 T5 M4 BD Jan12 S July12 Recon Sep12-Nov12 ILBINILWY Jan13 OM x 2 in 2013 W wants R July 13 I start D. Jan 14. Meet GF Nov 13 Have I changed enough? Jul 14
I hope one day I can think of my H as a nice, decent person.
Right now, notsomuch. Too tender.
But you sound like you have come a long way in your growing!
Decent nice person is not my constant thought, just a passing one I had while we were talking.
I'm getting there, one day at a time. Thanks
M36 W31 S4 S2 T5 M4 BD Jan12 S July12 Recon Sep12-Nov12 ILBINILWY Jan13 OM x 2 in 2013 W wants R July 13 I start D. Jan 14. Meet GF Nov 13 Have I changed enough? Jul 14
I haven't done anymore than I have agreed to for a long time. Since we started this every 4th weekend routine she hasn't actually tried.
M36 W31 S4 S2 T5 M4 BD Jan12 S July12 Recon Sep12-Nov12 ILBINILWY Jan13 OM x 2 in 2013 W wants R July 13 I start D. Jan 14. Meet GF Nov 13 Have I changed enough? Jul 14
Me: Are you still wanting the kids in (W's town) the weekend of S1's birthday? W: Yes. I told you I've booked to go away. Me: So I can't even see him? W: It was your choice. I need the break and it was either the weekend before when you would have had them or after. Made sense to go away on his birthday. Me: It was not my choice to not see him on his birthday. W: You could easily have had your mother look after them on the Friday while you were at work and they could have stayed at hers on the Sunday night. I would have come and collected them on the Monday evening. You continue to cut your nose off to spite your face. It's only your kids you are punishing. Me: It feels like I'm being punished because I wouldn't give you the days off you have wanted. W: Im sorry you feel like that but it was certainly not the case. Maybe we can book yours holidays together next year so you get more time with them and I also get some holiday time.
I left it at that. I would have only got angry with her and got nowhere.
Isn't that nice of her to offer to control some of my life to suit her future needs?
Funny how she needed me to take the kids so she could have a break (from the kids) but now she takes them away with her on her break with very convenient timing.
M36 W31 S4 S2 T5 M4 BD Jan12 S July12 Recon Sep12-Nov12 ILBINILWY Jan13 OM x 2 in 2013 W wants R July 13 I start D. Jan 14. Meet GF Nov 13 Have I changed enough? Jul 14
It seems like she is out to punish you AGAIN! History is repeating itself! She has done this several times but this one is simply over the top. I am speechless in regards of her actions and I am amazed that you kept calm.
I am so sorry for you! I know your children’s birthday’s means a great deal to you!
IMO throw him a party the weekend before and make it a good one!
I do not have any comforting words – sorry! You do need to find a way to make these punishing actions of hers stop. I can’t offer any advice but hopefully a vet will stop by.
You are in my thoughts! All the best
F
Me:44 W:43 D7, D5 (S11 from other R)
T: 8y - not M ILYB: 8. Mar 2013 W moved: 1. Aug 2013 LRT: 20. Aug 2013 _______________________________ Do or do not – there’s no try.
This is going to come up time and again when figuring out kid stuff. Plan ahead. Sit down and make a schedule.
Be proactive.
There was a schedule. She asked for me to take time off from work (that I didn't have) so I could have the kids longer for a weekend. I said no. She disregarded the schedule and creating her own tempory one. One that meant I couldn't see S1 on his birthday.
M36 W31 S4 S2 T5 M4 BD Jan12 S July12 Recon Sep12-Nov12 ILBINILWY Jan13 OM x 2 in 2013 W wants R July 13 I start D. Jan 14. Meet GF Nov 13 Have I changed enough? Jul 14
It seems like she is out to punish you AGAIN! History is repeating itself! She has done this several times but this one is simply over the top. I am speechless in regards of her actions and I am amazed that you kept calm.
I am so sorry for you! I know your children’s birthday’s means a great deal to you!
IMO throw him a party the weekend before and make it a good one!
I do not have any comforting words – sorry! You do need to find a way to make these punishing actions of hers stop. I can’t offer any advice but hopefully a vet will stop by.
You are in my thoughts! All the best
F
Thanks F,
I'm learning to keep my calm or express my anger elsewhere, I don't move forward by throwing it at her like she does with me.
I'm probably gonna do something for S1 the weekend after his birthday, same as I did for S4. I am gutted I won't see him.
I have been invited to a wedding that weekend, guess that's my GAL sorted.
The only way I can see her stopping is to D her and include a financial/child related settlement.
M36 W31 S4 S2 T5 M4 BD Jan12 S July12 Recon Sep12-Nov12 ILBINILWY Jan13 OM x 2 in 2013 W wants R July 13 I start D. Jan 14. Meet GF Nov 13 Have I changed enough? Jul 14
