Unlearning conflict avoidance 6

[Pudmuddle]

Agree with MrB. People often think their emotions coming out in their words means they are being honest and don't often realize it comes across as mean. Just because you think something or feel something doesn't mean you have to say it. That is the one thing we have under our control, our instincts.

This is something I am working on too. I didn't see myself as being mean, just sticking up for myself and being honest, but I came across as negative, naggy, mean.