Husband said "I love you" for first time in almost a year....now what? _______________________________________________________________ My H's family have continued to contact him this past week, texting and on Facebook, about him refusing to have contact with his mom.
This resulted in him deleting her from Facebook, etc. and the whole thing has caused A LOT of problems. I tried to talk to H's family about H's MLC and just leaving him alone as he's not really in his right mind...but they don't seem to believe me. And, if I've learned anything DB'ing, it's that I can't control someone else's actions! Lol.
So, I'm trying to stay out of it and work on me.
Here's the deal. H and I had a revelation on Friday night. He was at work and texted me to ask if I would speak to his mom about their fight and to tell her to stop trying to contact him, etc. He said that he feels so much pressure from her that he can't stand to deal with her right now.
I didn't want to get involved...but he persisted. I then found out, through him and his mom, that his mom (who is unhappily remarried and had an ugly divorce from her first husband)is actually trying to get my H to leave me and the kids "because we'd all just be happier if he was gone." And, basically, because she's "been there, done that" then she seems to think divorce will just make us all better.
My H was furious about this...which I found odd. He's been wanting out, off and on, but her saying it seemed to make him want to make it work. And our interactions have actually been pretty good the past week. So, he came home from work Saturday morning, grabbed me up in a big hug and whispered, "I love you." He hasn't said that in almost a year.
Not sure what to think of this. I didn't change any of my DB'ing but sure am hoping that he meant it.
The past couple of weeks, he's also commented on how we both have taken the word "divorce" out of our conversations, and he likes that.
And, we've had a couple of casual conversations about things we can each be doing better to help each other.
Tomorrow, I'll probably be venting about what a jerk he's being again. And the cycle will continue...but for today, I'm a bit puzzled at his reaction to his mom's trying to break us up.
