BC39.....The fight for my marriage continues

[BC39]

You're talking about making an ultimatum. That is generally your last resort, and usually not effective until you follow through on the consequence, implied or stated.

I disagree its an ultimatum. It would be me trying to push her in the right direction. I understand when people here tell me that would be controlling. It would be. But I would try to give her that push before I reached my breaking point.

When is my breaking point? I have no idea.

The separation and distance may be what your W needs to get the fuel to recommit. I see you in danger of being in limbo for a long time on your current course.

You could very well be right.

For now I'm taking the route HopefulStill took. Remain loving and patient. That could change, and I may look back with regret, but for now I have to pick a path.