When I was separated, my now D19 pulled out our old wedding video. Naturally, it made me cry. I wound up telling him about all the wonderful people who attended and just commented how happy it made me. It was not received well - he felt it was another attempt at wrangling guilt. I can't remember how long that one took me to overcome (see setbacks, earlier).
You'll have to get much further in the healing process to make any heartfelt comments to him. Until you know you're actually at that point, you're not there yet.
It's Monday, so I'll just say stick to the course and go you!
Betsey
"There are only 2 ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle."
