I would say your doing right a lot more than your doing wrong. Your doing exactly what you have been told to do.
Reading your journal it comes across to me like all she is getting back from you is eye contact, low voice and “Well, isn’t that’s what we are” and very little else.
Maybe it's the way you write down your interactions.
You still want to eventually R with W. Obviously you don't want her to eat cake but when she thinks back to all the in person interactions with you what is she seeing? An interesting F she wants to be with or an F that can just bring himself to make eye contact and say 'no' or 'I will think about it' to everything. After show much it could be seen as punitive. It can be a fine line.
It comes across like she is leaning more towards resentment than she is missing you.
It's the interactions that sound like they are not building anything positive. Don't give her a slice of cake but at least let her smell the crumbs.
The ball is very obviously in your court in regards to doing something with W and the kids. You could literally create the rules and she would lap them up.
Sandi could come along tonight and say it's a load of rubbish. I'm just saying it as I see it from what I have read.
M36 W31 S4 S2 T5 M4 BD Jan12 S July12 Recon Sep12-Nov12 ILBINILWY Jan13 OM x 2 in 2013 W wants R July 13 I start D. Jan 14. Meet GF Nov 13 Have I changed enough? Jul 14