Well, I can't disagree with any of that. We've been to therapy a number of times some years ago. It helped the relationship overall in many other ways. But the tough one has been convincing her to want to want. She feels guilty about it, which, as she puts it, is not a turn on. Besides, why can't a guy just take care of himself in the bathroom with a centerfold magazine or a good video on his laptop?
I'm sure any point contrary to this logical observation of hers has no place in reality.
Originally Posted By: ssmguy
And how many men really want to have sex with a woman who does it as a chore?
Some of the SSM people won't mind having sex with their spouse performed as a chore or duty, as long as they knew they wanted to perform the chore or duty. People who have been SSM long enough, might not even care as much that they don't like it, but the fact they are doing it for them will be enough. We over think these things.
Originally Posted By: ssmguy
Well, I've heard some suggest that it's different if she does it lovingly as a chore. Maybe. It's hard for me to picture.
If someone knows that it's not their favorite thing to do, but they like to make you happy even though they don't understand why this should make you so happy it's possible.
