Well, I can't disagree with any of that. We've been to therapy a number of times some years ago. It helped the relationship overall in many other ways. But the tough one has been convincing her to want to want. She feels guilty about it, which, as she puts it, is not a turn on. Besides, why can't a guy just take care of himself in the bathroom with a centerfold magazine or a good video on his laptop?
And how many men really want to have sex with a woman who does it as a chore? Well, I've heard some suggest that it's different if she does it lovingly as a chore. Maybe. It's hard for me to picture.
I had theorized that even an LD that thinks they don't "WANT" it, would be well served to have sexual thoughts and use of their sexual organs at some regular and normal interval.
But you need to stop beating your head against the wall if this is where you are stuck, going in loops to find the magical combination over the years.
