I would really work on seeing W as a friend, a sibling, a co-worker, and then treating her so. How would you treat your sister?
You hit your nail on the head here:
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I keep figuring in my head that I need to get used to not talking to W, so I don't want to invest a lot of effort at this point unless she wants to R. Perhaps this shows that my antics are not coming from a place of love, but a place of wanting to "win" and game playing. I need to work with IC on this.
25yrs is right...and that was the tough part of this journey for me...learning about, wrestling with my hurt, battered ego. Getting it under control and quiet again. You can do it, it is the most freeing thing!
In the depths of winter, I finally learned that within me there lay an invincible summer. - Albert Camus
Uncertainty is the very condition which impels people to unfold their powers.-Eric Fromm
