Slow and I have both been at this simultaneously working on our own SITCH.
"Toughness" comes with making the effort to gain a sense of objectivity & clarity with the DB Principles like detaching, focusing on yourself, GAL, even going dark. None of this is easy but you got to approach it like it is the only option once you get clarity on what definitely does not work in your favor.
Sandi2's 37 Rules under the Newcomer's section, was the baseline for me getting clarity and starting the process of getting a strategy in place and committing yourself to sticking with it.
Remember, we were all new at this too not too long ago and it's a learned process to separate yourself from the "emotional drag" that everyone has to deal with during the process. It's hard work but the changes will come with time. Hang in there!
Me: 42 WAW: 37 Kids: 0 Separated: 06APR13 M:7 Years, T:10 years WAW states she wants to "move on": 01JUL13 "Courage is the standing army of the soul which keeps it from conquest, pillage, & slavery."
