She insists that she is not leaving for another man. That, "this D is not about that." Now that I know she is lying to me or to herself, should I bring it up?
Basically she is lying to herself...though she doesn't "know" she is. They do find the most ingenious ways of justifying this thing they are going through.
Eventually they start figuring out it is within themselves, hopefully.
The more you can step back, use your logic (I call it my Mr. Spock persona) the easier it is to look past the cr@p they dish out, the easier to separate the behavior from the person, to see what is real, that they are in pain, and scared. Empty.
Don't bring it up, OM is nothing, and usually they affair down to make themselves superior, etc. Don't give OM any of YOUR valuable head space, he isn't worth it. At all...
Hang in there!
In the depths of winter, I finally learned that within me there lay an invincible summer. - Albert Camus
Uncertainty is the very condition which impels people to unfold their powers.-Eric Fromm
