Here is the thing: H is an extremely insecure man. Even when he screws up, he thinks I should pursue him or else I don't care much.
When I acted nonchalant about OW and told him I was moving on, he got very upset, which is a good sign, right? Except in his head he figures, hey, if she moved on, maybe she didn't love me that much, so here is the divorce papers.
Or maybe he was just testing me?
When I started crying he kept saying, "you were acting so nonchalant, it made me think you didn't care!"
That's why sometimes I wonder if DBing could backfire with someone like him. I'm not sure.
This morning when he woke up I didn't go upstairs. I usually did, just to have coffee with him, but somehow it feels like I'm pursuing him, so I pretended I was asleep. He kept coming to our room and opening and closing drawers, lingering.
Yesterday I told him I wouldn't be home for dinner tonight because a friend asked me to have dinner at her house. This is part of my GAL (which, in all honesty, I always had a life, but kinda put it aside for him - he is very antisocial).
He was like, "who is this friend?" Me: Jennifer. Him: never heard of her. You have all these new friends. (Btw, another friend is coming over in an hour to give me a massage. He also doesn't know her and it is true, I have a whole new set of friends, and that bothers him, because he has none.
Anyway, then he says, "but who else will be having dinner with you? Her husband?" Me: yeah. He: don't you think that's weird? Me: no, they are friends and our children play together.
