F, I think you are so right about these thoughts being so normal. They will disappear (and sometimes they are being reduced)over time. Really been thinking about other relationships over the last week. Not that I want to rush in to another one, but more on the side of what do I do if I am given an option. For example: I have a female friend that I have known for over 10 years, she has been single for that time due to most likely having a severely disabled daughter (not that it is a valid reason). But at times it has been made or offered that friends with benefits could be a possibility. How to deal with that?? Do I take up the friends with benefit offer, or continue to wait for my W.......to do what? Do I wait until a divorce is given? Or do I go with the view that I still love my wife, but, there is a good chance she is in a relationship or if not, she has made no effort to even look at us being a couple again. Do I not take up the option and miss out on some closeness that I am so missing?
ME:51 W:46 M:25 S:22, S:20 Divorced 16/9/15 BD 10/12 W left 12/12 with OW, affair confirmed Nov/12. Dark since 6/13 I"m in a new relationship since Feb 14.
