This is still very much script - my XW1 and I have been separated/divorced for almost 8 years, and she is still miserable. She hates her job, her life, her time with the kids - she will literally call me in tears asking me to switch time with her. She has a guy she says she is in love with, but after 2 years, she's never committed to even living with him, let alone thinking about marrying.
I actually sort of like the boyfriend - he refs my S11's football games, and is a quiet dedicated kind of guy. But XW1 is still so messed up, she can't commit to him. Being divorced from me - the evil horrible bad guy - she is no better relationally than she was WITH me, and she's had 8 years to think about it.
She'd NEVER reconsider reconciling with me, and frankly, neither would I; after four years of DB'ing. But it goes to show, OP and "freedom" aren't what they're cracked up to be.
