One giant leap forward! - Part 7

[Fartiltre]

T,
I hope you still feel strong – it must be a rough time! Keep your track – you are doing good!

F, why would it matter if the letter doesn't sound like her? Wouldn't you get help with something this important just like T is. I know I've come here often for help with communication. Everything is not nefarious.

Labug,
Of course I would seek advice and help and of course everything is not nefarious (nice word by the way – had to look it up ) Everybody is doing that – and should!
In my somewhat inexperienced opinion, Ts wife have shown rather threatening behavior several times. She has tried to gain control by this. I read her words as somewhat different and thereby thought this was evidence of her being beyond threatening this time. With her history (sorry for attacking your W, T!) a lot of all this could be BS but if she is having counseling it properly isn’t.
I get your points and agree to them but I also do believe that Ts Ws history in communication should be taken into consideration every time she states something.
I hope I am making sense!

T & Bug, all the best – you are in my thoughts and prayers!
F

[T1000]

Slightly concerned at what she might be planning...

Don't mindread, it robs you of whatever joy you might find today.

I don't mean to, I just wonder whats happening when it's all quiet. Lately quiet has meant she has been up to something.

[T1000]

How quickly they sometimes forget that THEY are the ones who are forcing separation/divorce and THEY are the ones who move YOUR children away from YOU. Selective memory is so convenient.

I'm not trying to fuel your fire, T, just so flabbergasted sometimes at the behavior, attitudes, and sense of entitlement of some WAS's who put themselves in certain situations by making decisions and then blame others for the consequences of those decisions.

I'm sorry you have to go through this garbage and wish you all the best. Be honorable and who YOU want to be. Don't let anyone or anything distract you or get in your way.

-PM

Thanks PM. I do feel like she is laying all her problems with her situation on me if she can. God knows where I would be if I wasn't detached and accepted some of it.

[T1000]

T,
I hope you still feel strong – it must be a rough time! Keep your track – you are doing good!

F, why would it matter if the letter doesn't sound like her? Wouldn't you get help with something this important just like T is. I know I've come here often for help with communication. Everything is not nefarious.

Labug,
Of course I would seek advice and help and of course everything is not nefarious (nice word by the way – had to look it up ) Everybody is doing that – and should!
In my somewhat inexperienced opinion, Ts wife have shown rather threatening behavior several times. She has tried to gain control by this. I read her words as somewhat different and thereby thought this was evidence of her being beyond threatening this time. With her history (sorry for attacking your W, T!) a lot of all this could be BS but if she is having counseling it properly isn’t.
I get your points and agree to them but I also do believe that Ts Ws history in communication should be taken into consideration every time she states something.
I hope I am making sense!

T & Bug, all the best – you are in my thoughts and prayers!
F

Hi F, I'm doing really good actually.

I had to look up nefarious too

I think there is a lot that could be read from what W sends to me. As labug has pointed out many times is does me no good to try and decode this as it's all guess work at best.
I don't think her counselling has started yet.

[T1000]

W was in my thoughts a little bit at the weekend.
I wondered if she is still with OM2. It's strange because I don't want her but if I found out it had ended with OM2 it would be classed as good news.

When I was dropping the kids off she asked me to come in to talk about S4. She mentioned she is going to put together some rules regarding the kids behaviour. I said as long as I agree with it I would be happy to follow it so we are on the same page. She said yes of course.

She was very pleasant. I noticed she was wearing new glasses. Never mentioned them as I don't want to have anything to do with her life other than the parts I have to.

[Pudmuddle]

I'm sure it still hurts to think of someone you once loved so dearly being with another. As they say time heals all wounds.

Or is it Time wounds all heels?

I think you are doing well. Hang in there. You are strong.

[T1000]

Thanks Pudmuddle,

It does still hurt but only a little bit, nowhere near what it did.


I find it strange how well we can get on face to face when we are not in an R.
I was sat across from her last night thinking she's a decently nice person.

She respects me and it's so easy going. As soon as it turns to R the resentment, expectations and demands come out and it goes pear shaped.
Just writing this right now makes me realize how much of this is W and not me nowadays. I'm not saying I don't have faults, I do and will work on them more.

The work I have done on myself has paid off. I was listening to an audiobook in the car. It covers a lot of confident based stuff. I remember listening to it after W left and thought I would never get there, I didn't have it in me.
Listening to it last night (15 months later) and I'm nearly there. A lot of what is discussed I already feel like that, it's a great feeling and that great feeling pumps up my confidence again. Perpetual confidence building!


This week:
- Finish 'Breaking Bad'
- Get haircut at new mens barbers.
- Gym, running, martial arts and swimming.
- Weekend to myself.
- Out on Saturday night with friend.
- Sleep in.
- Get S1's birthday presents.
- Whatever else comes my way.....

Feeling good today!

[Fartiltre]

And sounding good!!

Which book?

[T1000]

Thanks F,

It's an old one I had in my car. It's actually about approaching women, it's all I had to listen to but I'm glad I did. I will have a look.

[sayitaintso]

Breaking Bad was unbelievable!!!