MNS: I remember my first divorce "battle". My XW1 actually delayed our divorce a total of 4 years because my DBing blew her mind. She started dating/sleeping with a horrible guy, even let him live at her apartment ~ ended up throwing his stuff on her lawn to get him out. Even today, she is embarrassed about him, and she literally met me to talk about marrying him (while we were still legally married). If I had been smart, I would've accepted her offer of half the child support that I pay now.
Remember that legal crap is really only worried about whats "fair". Being married to your H 9 years, and making more money then H; the judge will just ignore most everything else with no kids in the picture.
I'm with you - I'm currently on the fence with just signing dissolution papers or fighting D - been desperately asking God what to do...
Again, my point is this is legal crap; every divorce attorney I know has a boiler-plate letter they do a find-and-replace on a first name and last name and charge you $200/hour to do it. I have a great friend that is a divorce attorney, and he lives with regret that he makes $500,000/year over stupid people arguing over divorce.
Just keep that in mind when you find yourself grieving...
