Trying to remember Michele's quote about how only the couple themselves can know when the marriage is really over. People who responded to me above spoke as if my marriage wasn't over, as if I was giving up just when things were starting to look good, but April/ May was just when I finally knew that my marriage is in fact over. I am remarkably at peace and my relationship with my ex-husband is more friendly and comfortable than it has been in years now that I no longer want anything from him that he doesn't want to give me. I have dated the attractive co-worker described above occasionally over the past five months, and he is a wonderful man, but not as emotionally available as I need to get seriously attached. Turns out this is good for me, because he is now toying with the idea of trying to reconcile his marriage. I'm attached enough to feel incredibly jealous of his ex-wife, but at the same time I'm a little giddy at the thought that they might survive after all. I like the idea of divorce losing the occasional battle with marriage.
M: 43 H: 44 M: 12.5 if the 5.5 year separation counts Bomb (I dropped it): Dec '07 H said finit: Jun '10 I moved on: May '13
