^^ Yes. If you focus on the other person, you lose yourself. What H does is not under your control. What you do is. That is how I stood two GFs. That and I am his best friend
No matter how I feel or what I want him to do, I always have to give over to what he thinks will make him happy. Then I continue with my awesome activities, see him for coffee, smile, upbeat. Calm and collected and it drove him nuts for about five months lol. He admitted he was jealous of my new friends and activties etc. That I was calm and peaceful and he felt that way around me.
Next, we take over the world!!!! Kidding, but it was hard not to want to whack him in the ankles sometimes. His path is not mine. So I really have no business being anywhere but on my own.
Don't think I am perfectly detached...a year later and I was not happy today. A million things going on, a little stressed and H is happy cozy in his apt. an hour away. But I am sitting with the anger and frustration and realize it is coming from my own fear of failure and procrastination and the fact that I have a cold
