This is still difficult for me but I thank you for the jolt - sometimes it is necessary for me to refocus. I know I cannot HELP or FIX him. Only God and he can do that. It is just that I have been a FIXER, and now I have to learn to just let it go. But I will say this - I wish no harm or hurt or pain for my spouse. I think that is what is most difficult.
It is difficult, it will be easier when you are able to focus on yourself instead of what H is doing. As the others have pointed out, this will not help your M in any way. If you are a fixer, figure out what you need to fix in yourself and focus on that.
M 46 H 44 D 12 S 8 M 9 T 11 BD 2/15/13 "Makes sense to stay together" 5/12/13 Agree we are 'healing' 7/13 Definitely Piecing 9/13
