LBH on the Left Coast IV: I Want To Believe

[labug]

Where are you on all that? Do you want to pay an attorney or do you want to negotiate with her. A stalemate won't make her any more likely to not D.

[LBH_LC]

I'm already paying an attorney, but I don't want this to get any more acrimonious than she has already made it.

[labug]

So what can you do?

[labug]

Maybe the better question is, what are you willing to do?

[LBH_LC]

Well, she said my last settlement offer is fine, now she seems to be going down some other path. What I'm finding difficult about her last two messages is that she seems like she is trying to push my buttons and needle me.

[MrCAS]

I have not talked to my L since our last court date and my settlement offer has not changed.

This works for me. Calm and businesslike.

Yes, Lefty, I can relate tot he button pushing thing... So just slap her hands away.

[2old]

"Yes, Lefty, I can relate tot he button pushing thing... So just slap her hands away."

Exactly.........

[labug]

She can only needle you if you allow it, attitude and perspective, attitude and perspective.

You are in control of you.

[LBH_LC]

Thank you all. Funny how you can think you've turned the corner and then it all comes sliding back when you hear from your WAS. Attitude and perspective, dignity, honor, and grace. These are my mantras.

[JuneReN]

I hear ya Lefty. Today I was not a happy camper, but realized it is me and no one else, although I would dearly love to use the "Whack-A-Spouse" today for no other reason than I was overwhelmed lol!

If you and W agreed before on the settlement, then tell her you have no problems not involving lawyers since she had already agreed to the previous settlement. If she would care to forward you her agreement on the settlement, you see no need for lawyers either.