Harder and Harder......Part three

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PS,

I know how painful it is to read about children and the impact of D. I know that no matter what, there is some. Just remember that as long as you are stable, constant, open, honest and do not battle with your W and use your child as a pawn (I know you aren't) she will be on the better end of the damage. I don't know exactly how to say that but I think you get my point.

As for down the road, I know some blended families who do well and it is on both sides because Mom's new family and Dad's new family all get along and keep the best interest of the kids in mind. Will it be hard when it comes to that? Probably, just be the best man you can be and do whatever you have to so D is comfortable with the situation.

When I met my ex his children lived with him and he wouldn't even allow his ex to step inside the house when she came to pick the kids up. (That should have been my first clue to run, haha!) When I moved in, I started opening the door, inviting her and her BF to their birthday parties, etc. The kids were so much happier and they were no longer afraid to talk about being at their mom's house.

The point is, yes, there will be some pain for your D that her M and D weren't together but the way you handle being apart will have the biggest impact on how much/little damage there is.