Harder and Harder......Part three

[lovethehub]

PS,

I know how painful it is to read about children and the impact of D. I know that no matter what, there is some. Just remember that as long as you are stable, constant, open, honest and do not battle with your W and use your child as a pawn (I know you aren't) she will be on the better end of the damage. I don't know exactly how to say that but I think you get my point.

As for down the road, I know some blended families who do well and it is on both sides because Mom's new family and Dad's new family all get along and keep the best interest of the kids in mind. Will it be hard when it comes to that? Probably, just be the best man you can be and do whatever you have to so D is comfortable with the situation.

When I met my ex his children lived with him and he wouldn't even allow his ex to step inside the house when she came to pick the kids up. (That should have been my first clue to run, haha!) When I moved in, I started opening the door, inviting her and her BF to their birthday parties, etc. The kids were so much happier and they were no longer afraid to talk about being at their mom's house.

The point is, yes, there will be some pain for your D that her M and D weren't together but the way you handle being apart will have the biggest impact on how much/little damage there is.

[jp787]

PS. I think all we can do is show our kids unconditional love and that positive change is possible.

[LBH_LC]

What's new PS, you son-of-a-gun?

[Positivespin]

At 9am this am I received a call. I received our first bid on the house. We countered,they raised, we countered.......6 k apart. I can't drop anymore then three...........

I'm scared.

I'm sad.

I have a plan if it sells but after that it's just me. D3.5 is all that separates me from a 100% " do over"

I have absolutely no idea what I want. I never really thought about it because I've spent the last 9 months on the defensive, too busy processing changes, to think strategically.

Oh yes, they want a closing date within 30 days.....

So I am here typing while my agent does what agents do. $6,000 is all that's left.

I will be forced to move on again.

Overwhelmed.

[littleGTO]

Wow, PS,that is some tough stuff to go through. (((((((HUGS, my friend))))))))))

Selling your home is HUGE. But, it is another step toward your new life..toward your future.

Onward you must go! You have made amazing growth, so I know you will leap this hurdle with the same vim and vigar you have been approaching each new situation!

Stay strong--you are doing great!

[Positivespin]

Im now almost broken-

I dropped D3.5 off at daycare this morning. Gave her a big hug and picked up the "Mail" in her cubby.

Got to my car and drove away

In the "mail" was an envelope with my name on it,inside, was a letter;

"I regret to inform you that effective October 18 2013 Daycare will no longer be able to care for D3.5."

I am pissed off and almost shattered. Pissed off because they couldnt tell me face to face. Shattered because this is one consistent in her life right now.

I know, it could be so much worse.I am the champion of telling myself that...but this isnt me its my little girl.

I need to pull myself together and become superman quick. Im usually good after 24hrs. I was better regarding the move this morning- then I received the letter and I unraveled because this just makes more change in our lives.

Sorry, needed to vent- the cup over fillith at the moment.

[jp787]

PS- Sounds like your toilet is clogged and the sh!t overflowing, sorry about that
Maybe find a new daycare and build it up as the bomb! Make D excited and want to switch.
Hard stuff man.

Glad your here venting!

[Maritimer]

Holy moly! What a rough few days your having. You are one of the strongest folks on here, you'll get through this.

It will be hard but you will find a new daycare and your daughter will meet new friends and teachers that care about her just as much!

Keep your chin up!

[Spartan]

Alright PS, no doubt you have a lot of stuff going on. Time to regroup and break it down into manageable pieces. Figure out what you need to to today, then what you need to do the rest of the week and start attacking it.

You'll get through this. Just stay strong, especially for your little girl.

[Positivespin]

Plan is in place and will visit 2 daycares tomorrow and Friday.

Sorry for this AM meltdown. I feel it was just a weeka$$, P.O.S move to not even let me know face to face.

I inform my wife and she just starts to cry...."Why? what did she do? She is such a good girl why did this have to happen?"

I bit my tongue hard at the Irony and became stronger.

"I know god would not give me more then I can handle- I just wish he wouldn't trust me so much"

I march on.....THANK YOU JP,Maritimer and Spartan