That's great LTH! Nice to see H bringing it up and being pro-active.
M36 W31 S4 S2 T5 M4 BD Jan12 S July12 Recon Sep12-Nov12 ILBINILWY Jan13 OM x 2 in 2013 W wants R July 13 I start D. Jan 14. Meet GF Nov 13 Have I changed enough? Jul 14
LTH, I just saw you post to another thread the great news about your H saying ILU and that he was glad to be working on the marriage, and that you updated your sig that you are piecing now. AWESOME news, congratulations!
M36 W31 S4 S2 T5 M4 BD Jan12 S July12 Recon Sep12-Nov12 ILBINILWY Jan13 OM x 2 in 2013 W wants R July 13 I start D. Jan 14. Meet GF Nov 13 Have I changed enough? Jul 14
I am very happy and I am just trying to figure out how to keep the connection strong and the time together going with school (going from 5a-11p all week, it's a lot of work!) and his job. We are also getting stressed because I still need a job 1 or 2 nights a week so money is getting very tight. So far though we are handling it a lot better than we have in the past when we have been in this situation.
M 46 H 44 D 12 S 8 M 9 T 11 BD 2/15/13 "Makes sense to stay together" 5/12/13 Agree we are 'healing' 7/13 Definitely Piecing 9/13
The fact that your both aware of it and being active is what most wouldn't be doing in the same situation. Keeping your eyes open should help a lot.
M36 W31 S4 S2 T5 M4 BD Jan12 S July12 Recon Sep12-Nov12 ILBINILWY Jan13 OM x 2 in 2013 W wants R July 13 I start D. Jan 14. Meet GF Nov 13 Have I changed enough? Jul 14
I'm so happy happy happy for you to be in piecing! I've read you story and saw some very eerily similar things between your H and mine.
I'm curious how you got your H to breakthrough to you as far as not running away when things get tough. My H does the exact same thing, instead of even thinking the remote possibility that he could work at something he runs! He has done this since he was 17, got angry at his parents, so he found a job in the mountains and moved out, w no regret. Just like now.
Me:49 H:47 S: 16 T:27 M:25 My EA: 2001 His PA: 10/2007, 6/2013 Separated, but H still in house
Find your Shambala: a place of peace and happiness.
Not to be a bummer but have the two of you discussed C? If he doesn't fully understand why he did what he did from someone other than yourself he could easily go right back to the way things were. That's just how it's been in the past.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
MrBond, we are definitely interested in C. At the moment, we are financially unable to go. We are struggling to pay bills and buy food as I continue to look for a part-time job and our insurance doesn't cover it. We will be switching insurance in January and we have 20 visits so that is the latest we will begin. I understand exactly what you are saying and now that I believe we could go without every session turning into each of us defending ourselves and arguing, I think it will be beneficial.
M 46 H 44 D 12 S 8 M 9 T 11 BD 2/15/13 "Makes sense to stay together" 5/12/13 Agree we are 'healing' 7/13 Definitely Piecing 9/13
