You know how vets used to tell us, newbies the time will heal and we could be well detached from our WAS after some time pass. Well I used to hate hearing that. It's really easy for them to say but I always thought it was kind of bs because we wouldn't be here if we weren't expecting our M to work or wanting our spouse to come to senses and come back. Well I don't consider myself a newbie anymore and now I totally get what they were saying. I'm at a point where I can enjoy every day life without him and can think what would be like without him. I don't wonder all the time what he's been up to. Don't get me wrong. I still do love him and wonder SOMETIMES what he's been up to but certainly NOT all the time.
Glad to hear you're doing so good, and the above is really well said! I too remember being aggravated at any post I saw that implied I wouldn't be back with my W shortly as that seemed like the ONLY path to happiness. I really did not like reading that success was when you got to the point of knowing you would be OK whether your life continued with or without your spouse, yet now I say that exact same thing to others. Because it is so very true, when I finally got to that point myself I was at last free of all the pain, anguish and anxiety I had been suffering in my sitch.
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I continue to GAL, accepting almost all invitations to any event, which I never ever did before.
Fantastic! GAL activities that involve getting together with other people are the ones that heal us the fastest!
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I thought maybe he was waiting for me to offer to see him at lunch time - but I didn't offer. I figured he would have to make an effort to ask me if he really wanted it to happen just like he sent me this text after all these months.
Good, you are correct that he needs to make that move, not you. You handled the communication well! Don't have any expectations though, it may have just been a temperature check on his part.
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I also continue going to the gym at least 3 times a week and the result is really showing in my body and my confidence. My wardrobe has greatly changed.
Excellent! Congrats! I'm sure even if your H doesn't see you that others will be telling him how great you look, and that might be making him curious
