Taking the next step

[Not Quitting]

Hi MH, IMO I'd just leave things the way they are with no talks about R or other. I know it's frustrating that you don't seem to getting further the path towards R, but you've got to remember baby steps. I think you're doing great at this and I don't feel you need to change anything

MH, I agree with TTD. You doing great .

I know you know all this already but sometimes we all need reminding of what we're supposed to be doing to get where we're heading
Like you said, don't forget how far you've come. The fact she doesn't want a D now is a huge leap forward. She may say it's not changed anything, but she's obviously had second thoughts for some reason

Another gentle reminder of this needed ?

Don't you dare bring up any talks about where you are going with this or you'll be getting 2x4s coming at you left, right and centre, lol. Not just from me either
Oh and I don't want to hear - yes I know all this but...

That goes double for me MH – you don’t want those 2x4’s

I just wish I had your energy, motivation and enthusiasm to get jobs done around the house. I need one of those house renovator TV programmes to come in and do it all for me

Once again I agree with TTD. You are one of the posters on this forum that’s been keeping me going . You’re allowed to backslide a little every now and then but don’t you go backsliding too much .

I can't remember if it was TTD or NQ or both, discussing house keys, but in my sitch, she has keys to this place, but I don't have them for the new house (or the car!). At some point, I may have to discuss this inequity with her.

That’s one thing I’ve accomplished – my H has handed over his keys to this place. You definitely do need to do something about that inequity.

Oh, and speaking of cars - I finally put in for the rest of my vacation days for the year. I'm going to take a solid week just to get this dump buttoned up for the winter, and also FIND A CAR! Not sure where to find the $ for it, but.... easy financing I suppose. LOL

Oh no, now you’re setting the bar on decluttering and organizing. Guess I’d better get my finger out and start on mine .

On the other hand, stopping the D to stay separated was a big step, too. And, she's coming over right now for our usual weekend activities of going to a movie and to lunch, doing some grocery shopping, and she's bringing the Iron Man 3 DVD to watch for the umpteenth time (we both love the Marvel superhero movies).

At least your W is still talking to you and doing stuff with you – my H barely talks to me when he comes to see S13 and on those rare occasions that he does speak, he doesn’t look me in the eye any more.

That reminds me, I've got to pick up that DVD to go with the collection - S13 and I love the marvel superhero movies as well