Quite an interesting therapy session. I was a few mins late & came in and MADE W kiss me on the lips (she tried giving me the cheek but I grabbed her chin).
Then I sat next to her & stroked her leg (she didn't make any contact with me).
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We spent most of the session with the therapist trying to get us to schedule a date, and at one time, W exploded with an angry nonsensical rant about us pressuring her & threatened to leave.
Hmmm, well based on what you described it doesn't sound like your W was very receptive to any of this. One of the DB'ing principals is to remove all pressure from the WAS because pressure usually makes them push away harder. It encourages them to take action whether that's S or D. Applying pressure comes in the form of pushing for physical contact, coercing them into MC, trying to get them to talk about the M (which is inevitable in MC), trying to get them to talk about a future together, saying ILY, etc. So what you're describing above is pressure. Don't get mad about the advice you're getting, at the end of the day it's totally up to you whether to follow it or not. If we're all honest, most (if not all) of us did not get into DB'ing willingly. DB'ing goes against human nature. We want to pressure and pursue because it feels right. But as has been proven over and over again, pressure and pursuit never works with a WAS, and that's why we have DB'ing.
That said, if you want to keep doing what you're doing then that is your prerogative, just monitor your W's reactions and if the reactions are negative, consider trying something else.
