Don't do it just to get her reaction. Do it only if you are okay with whatever outcome may be.
I too have no idea where my H stands but I know he's still confused. We are not friends on fb anymore but I know he still has our pictures up when his status is in a relationship with OW.
I too will have to think about how long I can do this and what should I do with our frozen embryos.. But I certainly would not ask him to file for D just to get his reactions.
What did her text about your birthday exactly say? Was it just "Happy Birthday"?
Btw.. HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!!
M37 H36 M8 T12 inc 3yr L-dist 7/12:H broke down 10/12:H dad D frm W4. BD soon after 1/13:H wants to leave 2/13:H gpa passed. Feels closer but H still leaving 3/13: S begins
