Hi MH, IMO I'd just leave things the way they are with no talks about R or other. I know it's frustrating that you don't seem to getting further the path towards R, but you've got to remember baby steps. I think you're doing great at this and I don't feel you need to change anything Keep pn with the dejunking projects and other things to keep yourself busy I know you know all this already but sometimes we all need reminding of what we're supposed to be doing to get where we're heading Like you said, don't forget how far you've come. The fact she doesn't want a D now is a huge leap forward. She may say it's not changed anything, but she's obviously had second thoughts for some reason. Maybe she's looking to the future and as NQ said one time to me - You're her 2nd choice if her new life doesn't work out - or something like that, I can't remember now, lol. The door key issue for me seems to have passed for now. He's not been coming round in the morning and helping himself to coffee and toast. I'll have to see what next week brings Don't you dare bring up any talks about where you are going with this or you'll be getting 2x4s coming at you left, right and centre, lol. Not just from me either Oh and I don't want to hear - yes I know all this but... I just wish I had your energy, motivation and enthusiasm to get jobs done around the house. I need one of those house renovator TV programmes to come in and do it all for me Have a good weekend and speak soon
H47 me48 T22 M21 S20 - Got high functioning autism 3/2000 H admits to OW and moves out to live with her 11/2000 H moves back home 2/4/13 H moves out H tells me he wants D 6/13, but now he can't afford to!
