Why do you think they tell you this: "I'm so tired of everyone in my life telling me to move on."
Please notice that English/American isn’t my native so I might come off wrong! No harsh wording is intended! I am familiar with your story but not into depth. You have received so much good advice from VETs and therefore I am not even going to try that, but it still hits me “Why do they tell you this?”
If everyone is telling you to move on then everyone knows that you haven’t? That either means, that you talk about your sit to “everyone”, or that “everyone” reads you like an open book. I “” everyone, because off course you don’t do that but people talks – even the ones we trust!
I might be totally wrong but if this is the perception of “everyone” – how do you believe your W perceives it? No need for an answer but do give it a deep thought! When doing this add in PMA, Act as if and Sandi’s advices…..
All the best!
F
P.S. I also agree with others: What anyone or everyone tells you doesn’t matter. What matters is you! But people telling you what to do is caring or concerned people so cherish them but make the calls and the judgment yourselves.
F, I appreciate what you are getting at. I should probably qualify "everyone" as my family (out-of-state), a few close friends (5?), and my regular doctor (GP). My therapist knows everything I know, but he accepts and understands my choice. "Everyone" else may be sympathetic and believe they are helping, but DB/DRing goes against their advice as much as it goes against my instinct. For them, I am not really moving on unless I start seeing other people, something I cannot even consider right now.
