yes, but question...what about when the he does something with the kids? does he invite the w along? if w does something with the kids, he is supposed to praise her? That feels so fake to me. I am following along this post, hope you don't mind dd
Willbwell, Me personally would say no to both questions. It seems pursuing to me. The first one depending on what option, DD chose, I think if his W wants to join him with the kids of course yes.
DD, following up on Acc's great post. The option I chose on my sitch is option 1. Post confrontation, I have told my W that I won't share her with another man and if she wants to pursue OM, that is up to her but under no circumstances that we will live under the same roof. To me, as God intended, a M is commitment between 2 people not 3.
She agreed no contact and to her defense she had tried but the addiction is intense and she backslid. Every time, I called her out on her EA, I called it for what it is and never sugar coated her EA, she promise she will stop every time. That is where my patience come to play cause i know shes trying and DBing (lots of 180s and GALs) for me. I've been standing my M for 2+ yrs, I'd like to think of it as I've busted D so far in 2+ yrs.
As, HS posted once in my sitch, give it another go... So far my W's last EA was in june this yr. that's where I'm at right now, im giving it another go. DBing is doing what works, finding solutions, tweaking as you go and if my W continues with the EA, I am ready to jump on option 3. Because I think option 1 is wearing thin on my sitch.
Just giving you ideas, ultimately the choice is yours and you do what feels right and genuine to you.
Good luck DD and keep us posted.
Newman
me40; W43 M18; T~20 D18; S13 & S3 bomb 5/9/11 EA busted 4/30/12; 9/4/12; 4/29/13; 6/10/13 same OM
Separated 4/1/14
"Even a flicker of light will shine through darkness-12/25/2012"....better days ahead.
