So I got the book today and read the sandi's rules, so officially I am starting Dbing today.
H came home stressed with work. I just listened. He asked if I wanted to go out to dinner at our favorite place. I said ok and just waited for him to finish a drink.
I would usually nag that he was taking too long and that would be too late to take the toddler to a restaurant. Instead, I just waited.
Sure enough, our toddler cried the entire time. He is teething and keeping us awake with his crying at night as well, btw. H got annoyed and S1 dumped water all over him by accident. H immediately yelled at me for not watching our son. I could barely finish my meal and took S1 to the car. I didn't attack or defend myself back, like I usually do.
I know it sounds very doormat, but that's how H acts when he hasn't slept and is stressed. My usual response is to feed off of his nerves and get as angry. I tried to remain calm and just manage S1.
At home, H was so exhausted that he fell asleep sitting on the couch. I took S1 to take a bath and would usually bug H to come help me hold S1 down to brush his teeth (he fusses and kicks my pregnant belly) but I just did it myself.
When I came downstairs, he woke up disoriented and asked where the little guy was and whether I needed help brushing his teeth. I said he was in bed already.
(Note: one of H's major complaints is that he does too much of my job as a mom besides his job at work. He is resentful that when he comes home from work, he still needs to help with the house and the baby)
I started to walk away to the bedroom (H is sleeping on the couch) and he said, "aren't you going to watch some tv?" And kept making comments about the show, to get my interest. I lingered for a bit and just said, "I will let you sleep now. Night night" and came upstairs.
Btw, I noticed that during dinner today he would stare at me every once in a while.
