You are correct we are both in much different situations.
Your plan sounds good to me. I especially like this:
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Boundary number one is if you file for divorce, I am not your buddy anymore. Tough love.
If I remember correctly, your wife, like mine, wants/expects to be best buddies after D. Ummm... sorry, but nope. You give that up if you end the M.
I actually had the opportunity to inform W of this on our 30th anniversary last June when she initiated a R talk. I basically said that if she demotes me from my position as H, I do not see us being best friends. She didn't like that. Since we have no kids, it would be easy for me to cut ties. Something else for her to consider before ending our M. Now if she could only figure out her stuff before I end it...
The svcky thing is how long this crap takes. Still, all the years we have in this is nothing to give up on easily, I figure.
T2, glad I made you laugh, my friend!
M: A really long time. Crisis: 5 years. She's still worth it.
Life is never made unbearable by circumstances, but only by lack of meaning and purpose. -Viktor Frankl
