Hi FY. I understand how frustrating it can get. Im sorry, my friend.
The thing is, that you will be the last person she will reconnect with. It just seems to be how this goes.
I think that you want to see big, glaring indications that she is moving closer and that doesnt happen either.
I feel that her redoing the bedroom is great. I think that the two of you planning to redo the office, also significant.
But she hasnt really done what she needs to, that can be seen at least, to address some stuff from her youth.
Maybe she is working through all this, though.
In a MLC, there is alot of reconciling that needs to be done. Who are they now? What do they want? What changes that they've made do they want to keep?
They often have to revisit for a bit, each stage that they have reconciled. Often, they go back around and through them before they can shut the door on them forever.
I dont really see that from your wife. But I do see that she is trying to figure stuff out.
You have come so far, and I know that you love her so much. I think you can dig in for awhile longer.
And then think about possibly doing something a little different. Probably more for your sake.
