Hi FY...I get the same...one day or week kinda sorta like normal, next all modesty...such a spin cycle, makes Maytag look like amateurs...
Just lead yourself back to detachment, don't take it personally...she's trying to maintain that buffer zone. Can you see a pattern? With my W, seems that after some time of getting along well, good vibes and such, that she will retreat, withdraw, put that wall back up (though it seems its getting lower these days). I am guessing that when things go well, maybe they start moving towards us, and that scares them (still), because they still aren't sure, about much of anything. They don't want us "moving back in", yet...
I'm going to quote you from some advice I received recently from UR, hope it helps, I think some of it is definitely applicable to your sitch...
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You may see some strange stuff from her....Doesnt happen with all of them, but often enough to bear mentioning to you. This last push is hard for them. Reconciling all the things they need to . What brought them into the tunnel, what they want to keep from what they've discovered, how they want their life to look going forward. And it comes out in strange ways sometimes. So, strap yourself in with a heavy duty belt, my friend. Keep steady.
Hang in there, keep steady...tomorrow is yet another day
In the depths of winter, I finally learned that within me there lay an invincible summer. - Albert Camus
Uncertainty is the very condition which impels people to unfold their powers.-Eric Fromm
