Should I confront or not?

[peaceSJ]

Hi Starsky, thank you for your reply.
We sleep in seperate bedrooms and went to a marriage counseling togehter once. But my H denied that he has an affair. He claimed our marriage problem is not related to any other person. He also said we're over and marriage counseling will not help. Since I don't want divorce, right now we kind of agreed to postpone our discussion of divorce for one year. But I am not sure one-year delay can do anything... Actually things are getting worse. We do everything seprately now. My H totally closed me out, does not want to involve me anythign with him. We rarely talk to each other except things regarding kids. I can feel the affair become deeper and deeper after they spent more and more time together.