In and out of fog city

[2ndtimearoundCA]

Oddly, I think I have been a better validator when I disagreed with her. I would say things like "that must feel very frustrating", and "I can see how you would feel that way". But when I agreed I was like ... "Yes! I agree with you w!" Then at other times I would say to her things we agreed about that she would say to me.. I was excited that we had something we agreed about. An example is me telling her "your boss seems like a terrible person".

I think I see the light! Since I had previously disagreed with so much, I think I had subconsciously equated validating with disagreeing.

Thanks AS!