2old, thank you! I've never thought of my words to others as "calming" but if they are then I am quite pleased to hear that
Back56- great post! Yes you're right, I'm sure this is no picnic for my W and I need to be mindful of that. It's easy to focus "too" much on me and forget that this isn't exactly a party for her either. And it certainly is possible that this could change her perception of the M. It will no doubt take some pressure off, she will finally have "what she wants" although that may not be what she thinks it will be.
Cadet, thanks for stopping by, I think it was you that said in another thread that most of us are divorced at BD, we just don't realize it yet. I think that's how I feel about it, maybe that's why I don't feel upset now, because I feel like the "real" D happened a long time ago.
