Djhartm, I know that my W is doing all sorts of stupid stuff that is wrong. An EA, almost a PA (now broken off), going $25,000 in debt in less than 6 months, quitting church/God, a lot of lying, sleeping instead of taking care of kids. I could sit here for hours and tell you all the stuff she did wrong. But one thing that REALLY struck me the other day was the fact that I need to fix ME. The rest of this is my own challenge as well: if we were to reconcile, what would I do differently? What would keep us from being right back split up again in 6 months?
If your W walked in right now, and said, "I love you and I want us to be together" - what would you have done differently to prepare you to build a new and better relationship?
You can only change you. Period. The only thing that is going to possibly bring your W back is for her to see a man worth coming back to. Be that man.
