You cannot base your decisions off of your W's reactions right now. If you hang your every move or feeling off of her reactions you will never be happy. MAKE YOU HAPPY AND BETTER FIRST, the rest will follow. She does NOT want to see the same old you, which is what I see with your latest post.
Maybe you should choose individual counseling (IC) for just you, to sort out the you problems, huh?
Me:49 H:47 S: 16 T:27 M:25 My EA: 2001 His PA: 10/2007, 6/2013 Separated, but H still in house
Find your Shambala: a place of peace and happiness.