Her job is killing her. I text her and said no worries. I know you job s*cks.
She text me back telling me her dr put her on medication to deal with depression and anxiety.
I text her back saying I was happy to listen if she needed to talk.
I might have done this differently. I think I would have left of "I know your job [censored]" and the part about listening if she needed to talk.
It feels too much like trying to me. The remark about the job, she may say her job [censored] but she may not want others telling me that.
Does she like her job? Does she want to change jobs?
I am going to provide detailed interactions for Tuesday and Wednesday...
Tuesday:
W's doctors office called me Tuesday morning trying to get ahold of w to push back an appointment. I had no idea she left me as a contact. Anyway I relayed the message to her and she thanked me.
Late that afternoon I was driving home in commute traffic I got a text from w that shocked me and almost caused me to drive off the road (I know... No texting while driving and I didn't respond until I got home.)
Her text literally said "I need sex... " and she went on to ask if I was available in a light joking manner. So I played along and we went back and forth until I asked her if she was interest for Tuesday night
Her: I am so very tempted but just got home and brought (employee's) work home with me because she can't seem to do her own work and (w boss) has told me that I need to do her work for her. I hate my job!!!
Her: don't you have the kids?
Me: (your boss) sounds like a horrible person lately. (Your employee) never could do her job.. Kids are being dropped off later.
Her: OIC... Want to meet for a drink tomorrow nite after my hair appt? B done around 9
Me: hair tomorrow or Thursday?
She asked me the same thing on Sunday about Thursday. Odd that she had her days wrong and didn't seem to remember asking. Normally she would have said something like "are we still on for drinks after my appt..." She seems very discombobulated ...
Her: tomorrow. Got my days mixed up
Me: sounds good. Text me when u r done with hair
I had been worried about her just wanting to be friends or just wanting emotional support. Now she seems to be looking for a "booty call".. In my situation I will take that as a good thing.
Wednesday
Her (6:30 pm): boss has kept me working too late had to cancel hair appt. can you meet earlier?
I am in my car with D16 driving in bad traffic and D16 just has a learning permit. W calls to ask if I got her text. I answered, but maybe should not have in that moment because of the D16 driving sitch... Anyway I said I could meet a bit earlier but need to feed my kids first. I said I would call her in an hour. Then I got this text a few minutes later.
Her: (my name), going to reschedule again with u. Sorry. Just want to get in my pjs and call it a day...
Me: No worries. I know your job s*cks.
Her: yes, DR prescribed antidepressant and anti anxiety meds to help me get thru the days... Never thought I would resort to medication but don't have another solution until I find a new job.
Me: I am happy to listen if you need to talk.
She did not respond. We had no contact yesterday. I am not sure if I should reach out to her or if I should wait for her to contact me.
Me-45 W-44 T-7 years M-3 years (4th anniversary July 13, but we're separated) Kids from previous relationships (s14 d16 mine, s23, s24 hers)
