Let it go, no matter what you say she is going to see you as the bad guy. Listen to your kids individually. Affirm their feelings.
Let them know you hear them. Then go do something to make them laugh and smile. Enjoy being with them and make a memory that is positive. You don't want them to look back at this time and their needs being unmet.
Start having some fun, and let the kids attitudes trickle back to their mom. She will start to wonder why you aren't moping anymore. Start looking awesome.
Start smelling awesome. Let her have her moods and deal with them on her own. It is something she needs and you need to really focus on your relationship with your kids.
They need you and you need to really make some great memories for them to cherish the rest of their lives.
To this day, my youngest daughter can recall a warm late Winter day with me in our hammock. We were bundled up in a blanket , reading and enjoying the sun beaming down on us. At the time I told her to remember this moment, our moment , and how much I love her.
She is 21 and remembers that time, that love. She as a young adult has compassion, love, acceptance and respect for me. She was there for me on my birthday this year. She gave me a card that stated how proud she was of me, how strong she thought I was, and how much love she has for me.
This is what YOU want to focus on. You can make such a difference in you children's lives, it will come back to you and you will NEVER EVER regret it! Love them, Love you.
Keep up the distance with respect and love. Keep it light, keep it non threatening. By that I mean no expectations. It will make her wonder why you've stopped. It does NOT go unnoticed, believe me...I'm living it!
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Formerly Workinprogress H :55 M :over 29 yrs. Together : 33 D : college D : adult BD and left : May 2013 Separated Experimenting/Replay
