Sometimes I wish I could fast forward to the point when I am ok with all of this. Thank you for telling me that there will be a new normal cause it's hard to see that it is possible especially when I am hurting. Now I know that a new normal is coming. I will keep saying this to myself
I know EXACTLY what you mean, my sitch is well over a year old but the memories of the early days are still very fresh. I remember reading stuff like what I wrote to you and thinking I just couldn't imagine ever being happy again or having a "new normal" that would be satisfactory. The first time my IC said "new normal" it just made me angry, I didn't want a "new normal", I wanted my "old normal" back!!! But I did find my new normal and it has proven to be really great, in fact I am happier now than I've been in years, even well before BD. I've changed a lot and you will to, and it will be for the better
Originally Posted By: JonF
I literally got to the point where I enjoyed the downtime, and used it to work on hobbies, read, enjoy time with friends, etc.
Exactly, same for me. I think after BD we all see the glass as being half empty, but in time we start to see it as half full. Initially the time alone when the kids and/ or spouse aren't there seems terrible and lonely, but when we start filling it up with stuff that WE want to do then we learn to enjoy it and even look forward to it.
