You're mind-reading a little. smile "I think he has far more doubts about OW..." However, it's pretty obvious that you've hit THAT point - "but I am not afraid of the answers".

It's a good and powerful place to be. I remember getting there with XW1, and she walked.

However, it's been 7 years - 4 years of separation and 3 years of separation, and 5 of the 7 have been the happiest years of my life. XW1 is miserable, hates her job, hates her hours, hates her life; she has a boyfriend she likes a lot, but never gets to see him. She has lost the closeness she had with our kids, being a stay-at-home mom. This literally just struck me today - that she left me to get her happiness and freedom, and almost 8 years later, has nothing. W is on the same path, but is going to hit it a LOT sooner; like 6 months.

I know it's not DB principles, but I can't wait to get to where you are!