just do and say what's best for you and your kids, and be consistent about it. Don't overthink every action or word. Don't become defensive when she blames you. Don't walk around on eggshells. Be strong and assertive and W will actually respect you for it, even though she'll never admit it.
Hi etc. I strongly agree with what Forever Young has said here!
You can only control yourself right now, and try not to worry about your W as much. She is acting confused and taking out her frustrations on you by the sounds of it. Stay strong and just be yourself. If you stay consistent with your actions, she will notice that over time.
Trying to detach more from your W for the moment would be a good idea. I know how hard this can be, to try not to let their emotions affect you. It seems she is trying to push your buttons right now.
Take the high road and just focus on yourself and the children. Deal with your wife only in regards to the children, finances, etc. If she starts with blaming you, I would just end the conversation. Try to be civil and try not get drawn into any arguments over who is at fault.
As for your children wondering if you don't want this, I would just take a neutral stance, and tell them that you just need space and time apart, but it wasn't anyone's fault. (even if it was!). You can still talk nicely about your W to them, I wouldn't worry about that.
Take care etc, -cp
M: 8 yrs T:14 Twins:7 S:5 BD:'NLILWY': Feb/2013 Mar/Apr/May: MC June: "living in limbo" Sept 12: H moves out Oct 20: reconciling Jan-Feb 2014:MC Feb 2014: separating, and H moved out.
