Well, I know it's difficult (having been through it myself) but just try to maintain a PMA and keep focusing on yourself and the kids. Try to accept that he is moving out and develop a game plan for the transition. My IC told me that once I got used to my "new normal" after S that things would be a lot better, and that a lot of the anxiety over it was due to fear of the unknown. She was totally right.
Sometimes I wish I could fast forward to the point when I am ok with all of this. Thank you for telling me that there will be a new normal cause it's hard to see that it is possible especially when I am hurting. Now I know that a new normal is coming. I will keep saying this to myself
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It's time to start negotiating the details of custody since he's moving out. Traditionally one parent gets the kids for Thanksgiving and the other for Christmas, then the next year they swap those dates. My W and I worked it out a little differently last year, over Thanksgiving break I had the kids two days and she had them the other two. Over Christmas we actually had the gift exchange at my house together. Think about what you want to do for these dates and discuss it with your H.
I will take my notepad and start thinking about this before this conversation with h. My eldest will want to go for sure , don't want to break her heart.
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When you have these discussions it's really important to not have an emotional breakdown! Be as businesslike about it as you can. If you can both keep cool heads then the negotiation will go much smoother, plus you're showing your H that the two of you can engage in difficult conversations without it turning ugly (very important from a DB'ing perspective).
Keep a cool head. Got it....
Thank you AS
Me 37 H 37 D9 D6 M9/ T12 ILYBINILWY 05/2013 Asked to S 06/13 Said he wants to S for sure 08/13 Said that he's looking for a place (Sept 17/13) No ring on his finger (Sept 19/13)
