You articulated what I was thinking too. I'm all for miracles and divine intervention - I really am a believer. So BA, please know that.
But if this olive branch is ultimately going to facilitate you being stuck on her emotionally, I am concerned for you. It's hard enough being D with kids... I don't think you setting a boundary with Marianne is unreasonable. Maybe you tell her that you found out immediately that you still have feelings for her, and if there is no chance you can work towards being a couple again, you will have to pass. I think that sounds masculine, vulnerable and fair. Being a woman, if a guy said this to me, I'd HAVE to be honest back with him. We don't know Marianne's truth, so why not put it out there? It sure as heck beats false hope.
As always, I'm on the sidelines cheering for you.
Betsey
"There are only 2 ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle."
