on the edge...

[dingo]

Thats a pretty hard question for me to answer Breakdown. I already do many of the things that are recommended here. I exercise regularly, I hang out with my own friends, I have hobbies that I keep up with (some that she shares in and some that she doesn't).

The one major change I am making now that I didn't do during the first three months of this situation is that I am refusing to let the status of our relationship affect my mood - or at least I am not letting her see it when it does. I am not reacting to her jibes, I am not reacting to her negativity, I am reacting in a measured way to her positivity, I have been preparing myself for the possibility that our relationship is over and I have let her know (through actions) that I am content to do that if that's what she wants or if thats what I end up wanting as this process drags on.

Sandi - I assume that when you refer to a marriage healing program, you are referring to a book or method that gives steps that we can take to work things through. Can you recommend one that we would both participate in?