I've never been the guy who could just put an ultimatum out there with regard to ending my marriage. Once I commit and take those vows, I'm there. I don't believe in divorce nor accept it as an option, so this is why I'm so tenative.
How are you defining marriage? Is it a piece of paper, or is it two people who are committed to each other? If it's the latter, then you are not currently married. Your marriage is over.
You have the opportunity to create a new marriage with the same women, but you have to force through some conflict and difficult times first in order to get there.
Originally Posted By: doubledown
I realize, however, that at this point it's not my choice. It's W's. And she's so morally mixed up now, she has no integrity or scruples.
You've got to change this thinking, you always have a choice. You can choose not to be in an open marriage.
Originally Posted By: doubledown
I plan to consult with an attorney regardless, before I confront, but my state is a no-fault state and it doesn't really matter. Everything goes 50/50 and they always side with the mother.
It's generally far more nuanced than that. Don't skip the consultation because you think you understand the landscape, get the specifics. I don't think you need to do this before you confront, but definitely before there were changes made in your living arrangements.
Married 18, Together 20, Now Divorced M: 48, W: 50, D: 18, S: 16, D: 12 Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 7/13/11 Start Reconcile: 8/15/11 Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 5/1/2014 (Divorced) In a New Relationship: 3/2015
