I appreciate you sharing your ecxperience with me. All of this helps.
I've never been the guy who could just put an ultimatum out there with regard to ending my marriage. Once I commit and take those vows, I'm there. I don't believe in divorce nor accept it as an option, so this is why I'm so tenative.
I realize, however, that at this point it's not my choice. It's W's. And she's so morally mixed up now, she has no integrity or scruples.
I plan to consult with an attorney regardless, before I confront, but my state is a no-fault state and it doesn't really matter. Everything goes 50/50 and they always side with the mother.
Vince B M=10 yrs T=13 yrs M45 / H 44 2 Boys 5 & 8 D Day: 7/16/13