Since you went away....

[RosaLinda]

Hi everyone, thanks for checking in and for your support! 

Well we've been in London for the past three days. The hotel "cancelled" my reservation! They overbooked and I was unable to find another room. My friend and I stayed with another facebook friend, a solicitor who lives just north of London. It was great, she works for the Ministry of Justice, and took me on a tour. It was so interesting! Then yesterday we saw all the touristy areas of London - at Buckingham Palce we saw the changing of the guard. Big Ben, parliment, Trafalgar Square, shopping on Oxford street, the works! So much fun!

Jaye "Once you learn what MLC, or just any old life-crisis looks like you begin to see it nearly everywhere. Its like "seeing dead people" in a way."

It IS very much like seeing dead people, Jaye, what an apt description. My friend must be feeling more comfortable with me and keeps revealing more of her sitch, and the story keeps getting worse and worse. It makes me despair about my own sitch --it makes me wonder what my own H has been up to besides "falling in love with" RT. Judging by my friend's sitch, the EAs and PAs we know about might be just the tip of the iceberg.

Besides the man I told you about, she has a second man she is having an EA with. She tells me they have just kissed, never had sex, but they text each other many many times every day. The text sound has been grating on my last nerve. She dragged me over there to meet him. He's quite small and unattractive in looks AND personality; I guess she's "affairing down." They shared a deep soul kiss, which was uncomfortable, and then he made several disparaging remarks about his wife, doubly uncomfortable. Not nice. 

AND my friend's son, who just turned 18 earlier this month, is having a physical affair with his best friend's mother!!!! She is in her early 40s, is married and lives with her husband and 2 teenagers. My friend says it's their business, and if they are happy, why would she interfere and give her son motherly advice? Yikes! 

Rose "Maybe you can suggest this site, confidentionally, to F's H? He can start DBing too?"

A DBing forum IS what my friend's H needs, but I agree with AJ, Rose, that it wouldn't be a good idea to invite him onto our site! I don't really want my friend's H to learn all the details of my own H's philandering, plus it would hurt him to read about her philandering. 

So I am truly trying to just listen and validate my friend but she's making my head spin. She keeps asking if I think EA1 and EA2 "like" her. Like we were in high school! Poor woman, she seems so insecure in a way. She says she doesn't want to go back to Wight today, she has nothing to go back for. I wanted to point out her lovely husband, three sons, beautiful home, lots of friends, and two boy friends. But remembered to validate and just said "you're going through a tough time." Good practice for when I get home. 

I haven't heard from H since he let me know he and RT were taking the train to a city 250 miles away to have his oral surgery 5 days ago. He's emailed me almost every day until now, sometimes several times a day, and I'm getting worried about him. I spoke to S28 yesterday, and he hasn't heard from H either. I guess it's a bit self centeted of me but I feel hurt that my friend hasn't even bothered to ask me if I've heard from H. But we discuss EA1and EA2 endlessly. Ah well, that's life in MLC land

Well I'm off to take trains and buses to the airport. It's been a great trip, a nice break from DBing my H, with practice DBing my friend. Back to real life tomorrow!

Then this Sunday, I shall be meeting some DBing friends from this forum, AlbaMarie, Nero and uRworthy! Woo hoo! Now that will be a great break!